dance-floor discoveries.

You've probably heard. There was a sweet sixteen party last week, and it was a dance. Dances are fun, right? Loud music, a ton of people. The bodies are grooving to the music. Good stuff, yes?



Maybe not.



I had no idea how much people my age liked to grind. No idea whatsoever. A great song comes on, and then all I see in my panorama is girls and guys dancing as dirtily as they can. It looks like sex with clothes on. It freaked me out. Where did everyone learn to dance like that, and more importantly, why do they WANT to dance like that? To those questions, I have no answers.



Can we take a step back from the whole thing, and blame it on the media for making them dance like that? I don't think we can. You can most certainly choose the way you dance. It is a way to express yourself. And when I see my friends expressing themselves in that way, oh, I did not enjoy it. I only enjoyed making fun of it. Which I did plenty of, because I decided that I should have a good time without feeling like a skank. (Excuse my language, but that's the best word for what I saw.)



"I was just trying to have some fun." Really? You can't think of any way to have fun except to dance unreasonably dirty? Not buying that excuse.



So here's the deal. Grind your pelvis against someone else's all you want, it is not my place to tell you otherwise. But think about what kind of message you are sending out to the recipient(s).